The Comparison Game.

I find it so disheartening to see and hear women tear down other women based purely on perception... We dig into the lives of others and cast shadows on them without knowing their heart at all.... I've come to realize that judgement is cast by those who feel like they are being judged...and many times THEY are the ones judging themselves....

Think about it... who REALLY has time to dig into the lives of others? Who really has time to gossip and spread hate? Only people intent on finding a circle to relate to... people who hate on themselves so much they have to pass the hate on... to the unsuspecting...they are the ONLY people who care about what's happening in another person's glass house... most are too busy just trying to live their own lives well... there is NO TIME to compare your life to someone else when you are busy actually LIVING your OWN.

But the people hellbent on playing the comparison game... do so because they cannot get comfortable in their own skin.

And you know what... we have ALL been there and done that.

We've lived like a hostages in own bodies... carrying layers of hurt and shame... we take those layers off like heavy coats and smother those around us... it solves NOTHING... it only breaks down potential relationships and destroys trust....

But....

Imagine what our circle of friends could look like if we let go of the comparison game and focused on our purpose instead...let's wrap our brains around this for a moment... what if we accepted and recognized we are all unique and created to set the world on fire with our talents and hearts...

Imagine if we chose to root for our "enemy"... fanning their flame... instead of focusing on snuffing them out...We would likely come to see they were never the "enemy" at all... just another woman... facing her own fears and trying to live her life the best she can... hopeful... and imperfectly perfect.

Lovelies here me out here...

I DARE YOU to step away from the comparison game once and for all. It won't be easy... human nature is a tough habit to break... but we can... we can BREAK this game we play... it' cheating us out of happiness.... time... and life changing relationships....

It's time we take our lives back.. It's time we wave white flags... admit our struggles and ask for second chances... It's time to prove to ourselves the stories we tell are sometimes purely fictional....and need to be tossed out like trash. We need to come clean and start over...

From now on... every time you feel the sting of comparison or jealousy set in....call yourself out and cheer her on... yes HER... the one who makes you wanna throw your phone with every perfect Instagram post she shares... the one who has that perfect family that makes you feel like a failure as a parent... the one who has the more successful business and the better legs....yes HER....celebrate her and the fact that you have someone you can look up to... someone you can reach out to for a hand up... someone to go to for support... she isn't your enemy... in the end... if you give her a chance she may just become your biggest advocate...your loudest cheerleader... and your most faithful friend.